Hey suckers! I really need to stop saying that, before some people will take it the wrong way. Let me say this once and for all, the reason I call y’all ‘suckers’ is that you suck at the greatest thing you can ever suck at; sucking! So that essentially means you rock, but saying ‘suckers’ is cooler. I have officially used the word ‘suck’ 7 times too many (with this last one included).
So now that I’ve bored you a little bit, let’s deal with what’s on the table for today? Speaking of tables, there’s something I have always wondered, that I kinda need help with… ‘If I’m content with what’s on my table, do I call it a Table of Content?’
While you chew on that, I’d like to thank everyone that suggested a topic or area of discussion for this post. I put out a post recently on social media saying that I’m kinda torn and don’t know what to write on for my next post, so I asked my ‘fans’ to suggest what they’d like me to talk about. The messages came flooding in, the number of responses that I got was overwhelming, the problem was now to start the selection process, I was ecstatic! Sike! None of that happened, like I mean NO ONE responded, and I’m not rounding up here or speaking figuratively, I mean NO FLIPPING ONE responded. Even my faithfuls who would usually jump on that and offer invaluable suggestions were nowhere to be found, like NOWHERE!
What do you think happened after that, I was excited? Maybe thrilled at the fact that no one responded to my call? Heck no! I felt devastated, distraught, disenfranchised even, okay it actually wasn’t that deep, I was just disappointed, I didn’t see it coming. As no one responded, me I proceeded to calm down, since the (ungrateful) people are not even keen on reading said posts. But then it hit me, how many times do people fall short of Greatness as a result of popular demand? A lot actually.
Popular demand is and will always be in popular demand. It’s so much easier to do what most people expect and accept, going against that is like swimming against the tides. But what if the tides are not flowing in your desired direction? Will you still flow with it.
Let’s paint a picture to bring it home, you’re going to Lekki; for my Lagosians or Maitama; for my Abuja fam, (the rest of you please choose a destination based on where you are, don’t stress me) yes and so you’re out on the road (for some reason in this day and age you don’t use Uber or Taxify) and waiting on a cab/bus to take you to your destination.
Now you get on a bus, but most people are not going to the same place as you are, they are going to Ikeja, Kubwa, Surulere, Wuse, and so on. By raise of hands, how many of you would join the crowd to drop at the more popular locations simply because it’s in popular demand? Now if your hand is up, slowly form a fist and give yourself a hard knock on the head.
Truth is, we would most likely keep going until we get to where we are actually headed as opposed to where most people are going to. If this is the case, why do we allow ‘popular demand’ to change our decisions and destinations in other instances, why don’t we stick to what we really want to do and damn the demands of the populace, why don’t we focus on our vision and stay on it till it manifests? Why do the opinions of others rock our boats so hard? Now I know I’m making it sound easier than it is, chill, I get it too, I’m human, but truth is truth fam, we have no business being swayed by popular demand when popular demand does not flow with our own vibe… (wait I should quote that)
“We have no business being swayed by popular demand when popular demand does not flow with our own vibe.” (Insert my credit)
Take me for instance, when I didn’t get the responses I hoped for, it deflated me, you know that feeling that you feel when your feelings are feeling feelings you can’t fully express? Yeah, I felt that. But like I always do, I asked myself, what can I take away from this? That people don’t give a rumpled shirt about my blog? That they really don’t want to read what I write? That I’m actually not encouraging anyone out there? Those are things I could have inferred and allowed (perceived) “Popular demand” destroy the good work we’re doing here.
Instead I decided to throw the wind to caution, cross my eyes and dot my teas, and do what I do, what I want to do and what I Love to do. And guess what, you’re reading this as a result of that decision, it wasn’t a decision made based on popular demand, but it was what I needed to do regardless.
So that it won’t be as if you just came to ‘listen to my tales’ and not learn anything, ask yourself the following questions:-
- What has popular demand/opinion ever done for me?
- Should I let it determine my actions going forward?
- Like for real it’s not easy, but I can do it right? I can stay focused on what I really aim to do and that will lead me to greatness right?
- Why am I still reading these questions, haven’t I already gotten the point?
So fam, I don’t give a creaky megaphone or a melting ice-cream (i.e care) how popular demands tend to sway you, remember it sways you away from greatness more often than not.
Before we share the Grace, think of one time you did something (possibly silly) because others were doing it and DROP A COMMENT BELOW (those uppercase letters mean I’m not even smiling). See ya!
Oh I almost forgot…