“INFLUENCE is Real.
Don’t ever underestimate its Power.
And don’t overestimate your abilities.”
This is very straightforward, and needs no “big grammar”.
YOU ARE NOT AS IMPENETRABLE as you think. I had to come to this truth myself. We were at a retreat in the first week of this year when this was said. I think it hit me harder than I’d have imagined. INFLUENCE IS REAL!
“YOU CAN NEVER OUTGROW BEING INFLUENCED!
This reminds me of a place in the Bible that says:
“…Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought…”
There’s no stage one gets to and becomes totally insensitive to people’s suggestions, persuasions and influence. You’ll just be living your life in peace, all the while, oblivious to the different things that influence your decisions and behavior. Until you come to the realization that things MUST influence you, that’s when you now decide what exactly you’ll allow influence you.
This so called “Influence” is not far fetched. There was a time back in school when the show Two And A Half Menhad me engaged everyday, I couldn’t go a day without seeing some episodes and boy! was I hooked. I noticed after a while that my responses, thoughts and even jokes, were made after the manner of the show. I was being influenced, I was being transformed, even without consciously signing up. This same thing happened with Friends, How I Met Your Mother and so on. (Don’t judge me, I do love me some good sitcoms.) There was this time when Chandler (the sarcastic and playful one amongst the F.R.I.E.N.D.S) was basically speaking through me, as I had a sarcastic comment for virtually every situation.
Please NOTE, that these were just shows, people acting on screen, people I didn’t even know personally. Now imagine the influence ACTUAL people can have on me. The realization that what I open myself to, is what will influence me, made me look into the movies I watch, the songs I listen to, books I read, people I “roll” with, places I go to, people I follow (especially on Social Media), the list is endless.
DO NOT FEEL OBLIGED to commit to any relationship just because the other person shows interest. Do you jump onto any bus that stops for you simply because it “showed interest”? I don’t think anyone on their right minds would do that. But that’s how many of us live, we follow anyone that follows us, reply every message, allow just about any “friendship” to grow, and at the end, we expect to become the person we’ve always dreamed of.
It’s time to get off your high horse, come down from that wall (of Jericho) of yours and tell yourself these truths…