Have you ever come across a person who talks like what they’re saying was pre-recorded and all you had to do was press play and they’d play and play and play. Their “device” hardly ever gets low battery, or shuts down?
Yes, I know what it feels like. In fact, let me admit that sometimes, I can be like that. That feeling of having so much to say and such a little time to spew it all out. That piercing inside that if you don’t talk now, you might regret it later, or that longing to just hear your own voice?
These were things that plagued me over and over again. On the flip side, some days I’d wake up and decide that today “I won’t talk (much)”, today I’ll let others do the talking, I’ll just be the 3 C’s, “Calm, Collected and Cool”. On those days either of two things will happen, I’ll either try that and maybe be successful for the first few hours, before the “other guy” will take over, or I’ll struggle with depression and a damp mood for the better part of the day.
I’m naturally a “talking person”, I’m jovial, I like making jokes (even bad ones), so its easier for me to talk than not to, so when I hold back almost everything I’ll like to say, it’d tamper with my Spirit and I’d end up being sad, even without knowing why.
So that means that like me, deciding not to talk (as much) is not the solution. Also letting yourself go totally is not a better alternative.
Let me share something that helped me deal with “my big mouth”…
– Ebube Agu
I became wiser when I learnt that I don’t have to react to everything or give a reply! I have the right to retain my response as well as delay it.
I found out that nothing mandated me to respond to everything and everyone. My peace of mind was way more important to me that pleasing (or “putting it” to) someone.
I came across this verse in James 1:19:
“Therefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath;” (King James Version)
Your speed should be at it’s peak as regards hearing, and then you can take more time to speak. Not take more time by spending more time to talk, but by weighing our words carefully before releasing them. Growing up, we were taught a method, to roll our tongues 7 times before responding to anything. Yes, it may not be very practical but you get the picture.
You shouldn’t be known to be irritable, overly irrational and wildly inconsiderate. Sadly, these are the qualities of people who have no much control over their utterings.
Another translation (Amplified) explains it more plainly and deeply;
“Understand this, my beloved brothers and sisters. Let everyone be quick to hear [be a careful, thoughtful listener], slow to speak [a speaker of carefully chosen words and], slow to anger [patient, reflective, forgiving];”
Take note of the highlighted words and let that be your meditation;
“QUICK TO HEAR!”
Careful, Thoughtful Listener
“SLOW TO SPEAK!”
Speaker of Carefully Chosen Words
“SLOW TO ANGER”
Patient, Reflective, Forgiving.
These are the things that are changing my life. They help me have peace and Joy and I’m certain that if anyone were to apply them, they’d enjoy such peace as well.
To seal this “lesson”, let’s see a quote from a profound Philosopher;
“Wise men speak because they have something to say; Fools because they have to say something
I’m sure that if it was in these times, Uncle Plato would have said something like this instead;
“Wise men TWEET because they have something to TWEET; Fools because they have to TWEET something”
Is there anyone you know in the latter category? Anyways, I didn’t say anything (don’t call my name), this is not about others, it’s about YOU.
YOU now need to decide which of the two categories you’ll fall into. The ball is in your court, or should I say “The Word Is In Your Mouth”.